Stop Sabotaging Your Monday

Sep 22

From Monday Blues to Unshakeable You: A Guide to Reclaiming Your Power

Have you ever had one of those moments? You know the ones - when your brain betrays you despite knowing better? It happened to me this morning.

The LinkedIn Spiral

There I was, scrolling through LinkedIn on a Monday morning. Achievement after achievement filled my feed, and suddenly that familiar voice crept in:

"Maybe I should quit. Maybe I'm not good enough. I've been working so hard - when do I get my break?"

The irony? I had just landed two speaking gigs two weeks ago. But in that moment? Completely forgotten.

Here's the thing about being a leader: these spiral moments don't just affect you. Your team picks up on your energy, even when you think you're hiding it well. They feel your self-doubt, your frustration, your uncertainty.

And let's be honest - as a manager or founder, you're not immune to these moments. But the impact of your spiral reaches beyond your own mindset. It silently shapes your team's confidence, their sense of security, and their belief in the direction you're all heading.

The good news? You can turn these spiral moments into opportunities for authentic leadership. But first, you need to recognize them and have tools to shift quickly, not just for yourself, but for everyone who looks to you for guidance.

The Science Behind the Spiral

As someone obsessed with understanding the science of our brain, I know what's happening: our negativity bias is doing its job - too well. It's an ancient survival mechanism that's now causing chaos in our modern professional lives.

Breaking the Pattern: My Emergency Protocol

Through years of research and personal experience, I've developed a three-part emergency protocol for myself that transforms these moments from spirals into stepping stones:

1. The Power of Open Conversations

Instead of hiding these feelings, I share them with someone in my network. No advice needed - just questions that help me see the bigger picture. Why? Because verbalization activates our prefrontal cortex, helping us regain perspective.

2. The 30-Minute Pause

When everything feels overwhelming, I don't just take a quick break - I take 30 minutes. Here's my specific technique:

Find a quiet space
Direct your breath to your heart (this activates your parasympathetic nervous system)
Allow your brain to slow down and reset

3. The Three Intelligences Check

This is where real transformation begins. When you learn to listen to all three intelligences - head, heart, and gut - something powerful happens. Each one holds a piece of your wisdom:

• Your head brings logic and strategy

• Your heart knows what truly matters

• Your gut tells you what feels right

When you align all three? That's when you become unshakeable in your decisions.

Want to master this technique?

I've created a free course "From People Pleasing to Power Moves" that shows you exactly how to tap into these three intelligences. You'll learn how to: